Hard time trusting people in relationships - Love and Dating

Ria1989 Deinonychus Joined: Feb 19, 2011 Posts: 319 Back to top Blammo Pileated woodpecker Joined: Sep 10, 2012 Posts: 176 Location: Chico, California Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2012 9:35 pm?? ?Post subject: Finding those qualities is difficult. But when you find them it will be worth the effort. I would continue being "picky" and find someone YOU want. Trust is difficult to build, but in a relationship there has to be an inherent level of trust. Without trust, there is almost no relationship. _________________ Since everyone else has this on their signatures.. might as well conform: Your Aspie score: 121 of 200 Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 107 of 200 You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits Back to top Ria1989 Deinonychus Joined: Feb 19, 2011 Posts: 319 Back to top ValentineWiggin Yup. Joined: May 16, 2011 Posts: 4625 Location: Beneath my cat's paw Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 12:48 am?? ?Post subject: "I refuse to settle for something less than great. And if it takes a lifetime, then that's how long I'll wait. 'Cause all I want is everything, is that too much to ask? Have romance, love and passion; find magic that will last. And I want someone to think they'll die if they can't be with me. I want to be their joy, their pride, their dreams, The very air they breathe. I want to wake up feelin' loved and go to bed the same. Yes, I want to be somebody's everything." Dolly Parton- Somebody's Everything _________________ "You're the apple of my heart, even if you do leave red hair and gum wrappers everywhere." Back to top civrev Tufted Titmouse Joined: Jul 15, 2012 Age: 26 Posts: 43 Back to top Ria1989 Deinonychus Joined: Feb 19, 2011 Posts: 319 Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:37 am?? ?Post subject: ValentineWiggin wrote: "I refuse to settle for something less than great. And if it takes a lifetime, then that's how long I'll wait. 'Cause all I want is everything, is that too much to ask? Have romance, love and passion; find magic that will last. And I want someone to think they'll die if they can't be with me. I want to be their joy, their pride, their dreams, The very air they breathe. I want to wake up feelin' loved and go to bed the same. Yes, I want to be somebody's everything." Dolly Parton- Somebody's Everything great song _________________ How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours- Wayne Dyer Back to top Ria1989 Deinonychus Joined: Feb 19, 2011 Posts: 319 Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:41 am?? ?Post subject: civrev wrote: If you have trust issues from previous relationships, you might want to deal with them before you jump into any more relationships, because it's really not fair to a guy to have to overcome these extra obstacles that aren't his fault. With that being said, it's important to be picky. You NEED to be picky. It's what's going to save you a lot of pain and suffering in the long run. I also wouldn't discount attraction. It may seem superficial at first but it's fairly important to sustain a relationship with someone in the long term. Would you want to be with someone you're not attracted to for the rest of your life, or even in a long term relationship? I agree wholeheartedly that I need to overcome trust issues from my past. I did warn the last guy of them, and told him flat out that I did not trust him and I did not know when I would. Despite telling him that, he still asked me to be his girlfriend, which was surprising. Unfortunately, it was not me that really needed to be worried about sustaining the relationship, even though I did end it, but he made it known that no girl will be as good as his first love and to be prettier, etc. would be hard to come by. That line itself is what ended our relationship even if he would never cheat on me, abuse me, etc. Though he was nice in many ways, his words stung, which would pierce anyone who wouldn't have trust issues. _________________ How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours- Wayne Dyer Back to top heatherbk Deinonychus Joined: Apr 24, 2011 Posts: 313 Location: New York Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 6:47 pm?? ?Post subject: Ria1989 wrote: civrev wrote: If you have trust issues from previous relationships, you might want to deal with them before you jump into any more relationships, because it's really not fair to a guy to have to overcome these extra obstacles that aren't his fault. With that being said, it's important to be picky. You NEED to be picky. It's what's going to save you a lot of pain and suffering in the long run. I also wouldn't discount attraction. It may seem superficial at first but it's fairly important to sustain a relationship with someone in the long term. Would you want to be with someone you're not attracted to for the rest of your life, or even in a long term relationship? I agree wholeheartedly that I need to overcome trust issues from my past. I did warn the last guy of them, and told him flat out that I did not trust him and I did not know when I would. Despite telling him that, he still asked me to be his girlfriend, which was surprising. Unfortunately, it was not me that really needed to be worried about sustaining the relationship, even though I did end it, but he made it known that no girl will be as good as his first love and to be prettier, etc. would be hard to come by. That line itself is what ended our relationship even if he would never cheat on me, abuse me, etc. Though he was nice in many ways, his words stung, which would pierce anyone who wouldn't have trust issues. Ouch. I dont think any girl would want to be with someone who would say such a thing. Hearing those words would worsen trust issue problems o_o Back to top Ria1989 Deinonychus Joined: Feb 19, 2011 Posts: 319 Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 7:03 pm?? ?Post subject: heatherbk wrote: Ria1989 wrote: civrev wrote: If you have trust issues from previous relationships, you might want to deal with them before you jump into any more relationships, because it's really not fair to a guy to have to overcome these extra obstacles that aren't his fault. With that being said, it's important to be picky. You NEED to be picky. It's what's going to save you a lot of pain and suffering in the long run. I also wouldn't discount attraction. It may seem superficial at first but it's fairly important to sustain a relationship with someone in the long term. Would you want to be with someone you're not attracted to for the rest of your life, or even in a long term relationship? I agree wholeheartedly that I need to overcome trust issues from my past. I did warn the last guy of them, and told him flat out that I did not trust him and I did not know when I would. Despite telling him that, he still asked me to be his girlfriend, which was surprising. Unfortunately, it was not me that really needed to be worried about sustaining the relationship, even though I did end it, but he made it known that no girl will be as good as his first love and to be prettier, etc. would be hard to come by. That line itself is what ended our relationship even if he would never cheat on me, abuse me, etc. Though he was nice in many ways, his words stung, which would pierce anyone who wouldn't have trust issues. Ouch. I dont think any girl would want to be with someone who would say such a thing. Hearing those words would worsen trust issue problems o_o Hmmm, yep. I'm glad YOU are on the same page as me as he clearly didn't get it. He got it when I dumped him, though. _________________ How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours- Wayne Dyer Back to top

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